STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

It is a natural phenomenon for human beings to interact and engage in relationship and it’s pertinent to know that no relationship exist without ‘hiccups’ because our level of exposure and method of socialisation differs.

Domestic Violence has been from time immemorial but the sudden increasing rate is absurd.

A marriage does not exist without a formal agreement to certain things and wants of life. You cannot accept to go on a journey with total stranger because I believe that no matter how short, you will have a clue about your partner’s lifestyle.

It is often said that globalisation has both good and evil embedded in it. Back then, it is customary for African parents to do thorough background check on the partner of their child but now, reverse is the case in the modern parenthood (sad).

Domestic violence is often ignored as it usually happens behind closed doors and it gradually becoming a norm of marriage while people are being subjective about it.
Domestic violence is a universal phenomenon. I’ve heard several cases of domestic violence ranging from merciless beating, battery, Psychological and Emotional torture, Sexual Assault, Pouring of acid and even killing.

After several acclaimed and double checked assurance of love and support for each other irrespective of the situation; people still go ahead to hurt one another even to the extent of taking lives (pathetic).

On this note I say, get involve with a person for the right reasons.

REASONS

  1. I want to get married to end loneliness: This awkward saying amaze me every time I hear it. Bro/Sis,  do you know little are the responsibilities attached to being single than married? If you’re not ready to be responsible for another person please enjoy being single.
  2. To achieve same status with friends: The uniqueness to every human is the time frame of their life success. It’s never too late or fast. Maintain your pace
  3. Societal pressure: Human beings make a way of life(culture) which in turn dictate their way of life. Every man to his/her cross.
  4. To run away from family problem: No one ever leaves his shadow behind. Tackle your issues and get ready for the intending family.
  5. Legalise sexual affair: No soup maintains its taste forever. See beyond body contacts.

WHY DO VICTIMS STICK WITH ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

In many cases of domestic violence, a therapeutic separation is necessary to gain safety and direct attention to the gravity of the need for change.
I know this will not go down well with many religious moguls but the truth is, only a living have a say.

  1. What will people say?
    This is what I termed “Personality Disorder” putting people before yourself is lack of certain deficiency in your life. Whether good/bad, it is expected that people will talk so why not care less about their opinion as noise doesn’t matter in a bargain involving two focus people.
  2. Where do I start from?

Start from that point that you are right now…

  1. I love him

Well, love is a two- edged sword when it have one edge, it is a knife. No one loves the dead to the extent of agreeing to be buried alive along the dead. Love must be on same lane… no one moves to fast lane leaving the other on service lane

  1. I can’t have a broken home

There’s a different between a home and a house… when it becomes scary and a no go area, it’s broken already. Stay healthy to build your home to a desirable stage. Women, do not provoke your husband to anger… Men love and cherish the good thing that you have found so that you can obtain favour

  1. Is for my children

Think about the psychological effect… 90% of every child from abusive home have the tendency of abusing their spouse. Sticking to an abusive marriage is like strengthening a generational curse. Break off the hold today and set your children free. Be alive for them.

I hereby call on the government, social workers,  the media and religious leaders to help lend a voice on this issue before it eats too deep into the fabric of our country.

#SAYNOTODOMESTICVIOLENCE

#ISTANDWITHTHEVICTIMS

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WOMEN PROPERTY RIGHT

Nigeria has led campaign for the promotion of women’s property rights in Africa, saying it is a panacea to achieving women economic empowerment in the continent.
At the Africa’s women parliamentarian  event which was  hosted by Senior Special Assistant to the President on Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), Princess Adejoke Orelope-Adefulire, in NewYork. Orelope-Adefulire expressed her regret that women were still being discriminated against in Africa in the area of rights to inherit property.
“Women are special; we should be celebrated everyday and there is no reason why our rights should be eroded.
“The laws that give rights to men, the same laws give rights to women. So we must come together to protect the rights of women in Africa,” she said.
She further pointed out that advances in entrenching women’s property rights in Sub-Saharan Africa was quite slow adding, efforts to advance this cause have been lame.
“The inhibitions placed on women in many family and inheritance laws across the world systematically prevent the full realization of economic rights with poverty as a consequence.
“There is therefore an urgent need to address the legal pluralism that guides inheritance laws in many nations, a situation where different systems of laws operate simultaneously with attendant negative consequences on the vulnerable in such societies.
“Where possible, it is important to reform or harmonize these legal systems to ensure that women who marry under local statutes, customary or religious laws and other such arrangements are not treated differently,” she said.
Orelope-Adefulire, however, called for men’s support in the agitation for gender parity by women.
“We need to bring our men on board to understand the problem, why we are agitating and for them to know that it is in their own interests also,” she said.

She called for the empowerment of women and sustained advocacy for women to know the laws, how to defend their rights and seek redress.

“As you are aware, there is empirical evidence that demonstrates that investing in women matters for poverty eradication.

“It is worth reiterating that gender is a determining factor in poverty-environment linkages as gender inequality, environmental deterioration and deepening poverty are mutually self-reinforcing.
“Improvement in any one of these three enhances livelihoods, improves resilience and reduces vulnerability.”.
The president’s aide said majority of African countries were signatory to many international agreements targeted at improving gender equality but regretted that they were yet to meet the minimum conditions required to attain gender parity.
“Across the world, societies that accord gender equality the priority of place it deserves strive diligently to engender women’s property rights.
“They are thereby able to unlock the full potentials of women and girls, with attendant rapid national development.”
Also speaking, Mrs. Bisi Fayemi, former First Lady of Ekiti State, warned that gender inequality is a deep-rooted problem while women were treating the symptoms.
Fayemi pointed out that Ekiti state is the only state in Nigeria that has domesticated the National Gender Policy, an effort she championed when she was the first lady.
She advocated legislative framework, activism and for women to exercise their political strength by electing women activists and feminists into political offices to ensure that gender equality becomes a reality by 2030.
“We should do something lasting and not clapping and dancing for our husbands to get elected into offices,” Fayemi said.
Other speakers at the event included Ms Silvana Koch-Mehrin, founder, Women in Parliaments Global Forum, Mitchell Toomey, Director, UN SDGs Action Campaign and Esther Chilenje.

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